And he again dreamed another dream, and he

themselves to me." (Bereishit 37:9)

We

are told that the relationship began with kina – envy, then sina

– hatred came to it. They hated him because they believed that they could

recognize his thoughts and plans out of his dreams. But they did not fear him,

because they did not believe they would ever be realized. But when they now

heard his last dream – which promised him the highest majesty on earth, and not

just the ruling rank in the family circle – and saw how their father took it,

not as a mere dream, but was pondering over it and thinking of the possibility

of its coming true, then kina became keen again in their sina (kina

b' – "to be jealous regarding…" means literally: to believe

your justified demands to be endangered by someone), and immediately following

thereon: and his brothers went, significantly separated from to

pasture, etc. by an etnahata [cantillation sign], just "they

went away." It has been deeply impressed in their minds that the harmony

of their rights was threatened by Joseph, and that was why they went away. And

moreover, they went far away. Shekhem is about eighty kilometers away from

Hebron. According to Midrash Rabbah the participle et in lirot et

hatzon ["to pasture the flocks] is dotted to indicate that it was only

ostensibly for the sheep, but in reality to "shepherd themselves" to

preserve their independence which they believed to be diminished by Jacob's

opinion over the future position of Joseph…And their future would really have

been threatened if Joseph's future position was to be what they imagined and

feared. For, after all, it was not so very long since Nimrod had introduced the

idea of kingship into the world. Their cousins were already enslaved under alufim

and kings in Seir-Edom. It was just in contrast to such dictatorships, where

the inhabitants were considered as mere bricks for building up the fame and

ambition of a single dynasty lowering the status of the individual, that the

family of Abraham were to be the realization of the establishment of human

society on the basis of freedom and equality, where the value and nobility of

each human being is recognized, where the common mission of keeping the

way of the Lord to perform righteousness and justice as the expressed Will of God is alone to have

the dictating rule equally over everybody. What would become of their future,

and the future of the whole world, if they, too, were to allow themselves to be

enchained by the ambition of one single individual?

(Rabbi S.R. Hirsch Bereishit 37: 11-12)

Please recognize – the Challenge of Parashat Vayeshev

Gili Zivan

Parashat Vayeshev tells us the tragedy of Jacob's

family. We learn of discrimination between brothers, of hatred, jealousy, a

plot to commit murder, and the sale of Joseph to the Ishmaelites. From there on

Joseph's adventures in Egypt become increasingly complex, bringing him first to

the house of one of Pharaoh's high officials and then to prison. In the middle

of the parasha, just it reaches the height of its narrative tension, when all

our attention is concentrated on Joseph, who had just been sold as a slave to Potiphar,

Pharaoh's chamberlain, chief of the slaughterers, the continuity of

Joseph's tale is broken. We are forced to leave him in a foreign land and take

up the story of Judah in Canaan. What is the point of this rupture?

Various suggestions have been forwarded to solve our

parasha's structural riddle, but I would like to focus on just one of them that

sheds light not only on parashat Vayeshev but also on Bereishit's entire

collection of stories.

Our parasha may be viewed as one dealing with interpersonal

communication and the possibility of dialogue between people. The whole development

of events in the beginning of the parasha and Joseph's adventures in the book's

continuation point to the terrible tragedy of a lack of communication. The

heroes of these stories are not capable of participating in a true dialogue

with another person present before them. They are not attentive to the voice

and needs of the "Other" – they listen only to themselves.

Many utterances are mentioned in the story, many

words and sentences, but they are incapable of making their way to the Other

because the speaker or speakers do not see him, his problems, his fears, or his

feelings. Sometimes, as we shall see later, words do not merely fail to reach

the Other, rather, the words themselves generate alienation and isolation. Sometimes

the words create pain and loss, mourning and heartbreak.

Our parasha begins with a description of Joseph who

herds the sheep together with the sons of the concubines and brings an evil

report of them to their father. He does not speak to his brothers but

rather about them. He assigns himself the role of his brothers' accuser. Jacob, for

his part, stokes the hatred that has begun to burn between his sons by coronating

his favorite son with a royal striped tunic. He does not notice the bitterness

of those who had been reported on and he pays no attention to the jealousy felt

by his sons. He is withdrawn into himself. Perhaps he is pining for his beloved

late wife, Rachel, and projects his love for her onto her son Joseph. The rift

grows until there is no more communication between Joseph and his brothers,

only ever-intensifying hatred: so they hated him, and they could not speak

with him peacefully. Joseph, with his usual egocentrism and narcissism, is

completely unaware of his brothers' burning jealousy. In a strikingly tactless

move, he tells them his dreams of greatness and they hated him yet more.

It is almost possible to visualize the scene described by Scripture: when the

brothers see Joseph walking towards them they move away, and he, completely

insensitive to the situation, runs after them, calling out: "Please

hear the dream I have dreamt…" He is completely oblivious to their problems;

he asks them to listen to him while he remains deaf to the cry of their

jealousy. Later, after he has related the dream of the sheaves, they explicitly

express their jealousy and their frustration over his arrogance: "Will

you really be king over us, will you really rule over us?" And still

he does not hear their voices. He does not sense how, thanks to his

"dreams" and "words," their hatred grows ever stronger. Now

he adds the straw that broke the camel's back by telling them yet another dream

of haughtiness and discrimination.

Jacob ignores the danger signs and sends Joseph into

the lion's den – to his brothers who were pasturing their flocks in Shekhem.

In this scene, Joseph and his brothers no longer

exchange words. The brothers speak among themselves about this dreamer. They

strategize with each other until a plan is formulated: Let us go and kill

devoured him. Then let us see what becomes of his dreams! No more words are

passed between the brothers.

They listen no more, as the brothers themselves later

admit in a moment of self-accounting: But we are guilty regarding our

brother, having seen his soul's trouble when he begged us and we did not hear

(Bereishit 42:21). Joseph's cries remain hanging in the air at the

edge of the pit. There is no connection between Joseph and his brothers; he is

a stranger to them, detached from them.

Their detachment reaches its climax, however, in

relation to their father. They take the striped tunic which had ignited their

jealousy, dip it in blood, and send it to their father. With a simple utterance

they subject their father to many days of mourning, pain, and tears. The

words appearing in the end of chapter thirty-seven do not serve to facilitate

connection and dialogue; they are meant to create alienation and pain. They are

intended to create a destructive reality for Jacob. The father who did not

listen to his sons will now attend solely to his pains and longings. Indeed, an

evil beast devoured him. The beast of jealousy and the humiliation

burning within the brothers killed Joseph. We readers know that it is all a

ploy, but that does not reduce Jacob's profound grief. The virtual reality

created by the brothers' harsh words is Jacob's existential reality.

The story of Judah and Tamar is the first in

which a reversal takes place. The beginning of the story continues the tragic

lack of dialogue with which our parasha begins. The story's characters do not

speak to each other, they do not look the Other in the eye; they only see

themselves. Judah is incapable of understanding Tamar, who is left

"forever married to the dead" and who cannot create a real family for

herself or know the pleasure of hugging her own child. Judah cannot understand

her loneliness and disappointment. She sits in her widow's garb until the

days multiply…she sees how Shelah had grown but she was not given to

him as a wife. They forgot her at home. She, apparently, is supposed to end

out her days as a living memorial. She has no options left besides dressing as

a harlot and executing her creative and daring plan to acquire the seed of

Judah, who, meanwhile, had become a widower himself.

Again we come face to face with double standards of

expectations from men and women. Judah, the family patriarch, has no problem

satisfying his sexual needs with a kedesha, while he immediately orders

that Tamar be taken out and burnt, when she is revealed to have played

the harlot… and become pregnant through harlotry

Here the reversal takes place. The pledge [eravon]is revealed: Please

recognize whose signet ring, cloak, and staff are these? Judah recognizes

not only the objects that evidence his identity; he also recognizes his own

error: Then Judah recognized [them], and he said, "She is right, [it

is] from me, because I did not give her to my son Shelah." It is the

pledge which first moves him from a world of detachment to a world in which the

individual recognizes the Other as a subject possessing her own emotional

world, human being with desires, troubles, and fears of her own.

This kind of recognition generates interpersonal

responsibility [arevut] and concern for

the other.

Judah learned well his lesson from Tamar. In

parashat Vayigash he will be the one who succeeds in getting the Egyptian

viceroy to reveal his true identity and reacquaint himself [hekerut – another

use of the same Hebrew root as in the word for identify] with his brothers. It

is only Judah, who had learned the hard way about the need to engage with the

Other and to feel him and listen to him, who could express Jacob's feelings

powerfully enough to pull Joseph out of the game of detachment and towards a

rediscovery of his father and brothers. Joseph responds to Judah's words by

revealing himself. The brothers who were alienated from Joseph when the parasha

began and could not speak with him peacefully, and who were so detached

from their father that they were capable of bloodying the beloved striped tunic

in order to make him descend to the grave in grieving, are now exposed to a

whole raft of new feelings and re-acquaintances.

Those who had said to their father, "Now recognize whether it is your son's coat

or not," come to a new recognition of their story.

Jacob, of whom it had been written, He recognized

it, and he said, "[It is] my son's coat; a wild beast has devoured him,

now learns to recognize Joseph and his other sons anew.

In the heart of parashat Vayeshev, in the middle of

the story of Joseph in Egypt, the narrative flow is broken to include very

important parenthetical material: the story of Judah and Tamar. If Judah had not

gone down from his brothers, and if he had not taken Bat Shua for a

wife, and if she had not born him three sons, and if he had not married off the

elder son, Er, to Tamar, and if Er had not died, and if Onan had not acted as

he did and died, and if Judah had not ignored Tamar's widowhood by preventing

his son Shela from marrying her – then Judah would never have learnt the most

important lesson of our story: that neither a family nor a society can

the life of the "Other."

In the eighth chapter of the book of Bereishit Judah

learns what it means to take responsibility for the suffering of

others.

That is why he alone will later be able to convince

Jacob to let him go down once more to Egypt to buy food during the famine. Reuben,

in contrast to Judah, did not learn the lesson, and his offer, Kill my two

sons if I do not bring him back to you, is rejected by Jacob. Reuben did

not learn to break out of his own world into that of his father; he did not

understand that his promise to sow yet further death in the family did not

inspire confidence in him.

In the emotional encounter between Joseph and his

brothers recounted in chapter 44, only Judah will be able say forthrightly: For

your servant assumed responsibility for the boy from

father forever.'

Parashat Vayeshev, and perhaps the entire book of

Bereishit, teach us of the need for true dialogue in our lives, of the great

destructive power of words and of the great power of words to heal and connect

people.

Dr. Gili Zivan is a member of Kibbutz Saad. She administers the Yaakov

Hertzog Center for Jewish Studies and is currently on sabbatical.

What Do We Gain? Pragmatic Considerations vs. Ethical

Considerations

Rabbi Meir said: The word botzeiya [grasping] was used only in

reference to Judah, for it says: Then Judah said to his brothers, "What

do we gain (ma betza) by killing our brother?" Anyone who blesses

Judah reviles and scorns [God], and regarding this it is said, The grasping

man reviles and scorns the Lord (Psalms 10: 3).

(Sanhedrin 6b)

"In reference to Judah": For he should have said, "let us

return him to our father," since his brothers hearkened to his words.

(Rashi loc cit)

What do we gain: Anyone who blesses Judah reviles and

scorns, for he [Judah] saved Joseph with the words what do we gain,

which imply that if there is something to be gained, we will kill him, and

regarding this it says, The grasping man reviles and scorns the Lord.

(Hizkuni – Bereishit 37: 26)

The grasping man reviles and scorns: An Act of Worship Becomes a

Curse and a Desecration of the Divine Name.

When Joseph was sent by his father to visit his brothers, they thought

about killing him, for it says They said to one another… let us kill him

(Bereishit 37:

19) and they stood and threw him

into the pit and said "let us eat and drink, and afterwards we'll pull him

out and kill him." They ate and drank, and time came to say the grace

after meals. Judah said to them: "We are about to kill, and we are

blessing God? We are nothing but scorners!"

What does What do we gain by killing our brother mean? Judah told

them: The grasping man reviles and scorns the Lord rather, come, let

us sell him to the Ishmaelites (Bereishit 37: 27).

(Pesikta Rabbati 10)

Ta'amei HaMikra – In Both Senses of the Expression

But he refused and he

said… my master… The cantillation

of the word And he refused indicates the prohibition of the act and that

he was totally prevented from doing so, for the cantillation marks of the Torah

allow us to understand that which is not overtly recorded, just as we can

divine a man's thoughts from his movements.

(Rabeinu

Bahaye, Bereishit 49:8)

…meaning that the

cantillation marks which accompany the text allow us to understand things

that are not expressly written. The rabbi's intention is to say that a person

has facial expressions and vocal nuances, which enable us to reveal and know

something about his mood and mental-spiritual condition; mimicry and

gesticulation of a person, and the shadings of his voice, help us know what is

actually taking place in his inner consciousness.

In the narrative of

Joseph and his attempted seduction by Potiphar's wife, he withstands temptation

and does not comply. The Torah expresses his restrained behavior with the term and

he refused. The term is accompanied with the very rare shalshellet cantillation.

The Massorah's assignment of this particular note to and he refused is

hardly accidental. Through it, the massora wanted to let us know that in

that situation Joseph conducted a very difficult struggle, an act involving

tremendous spiritual courage, in order to withstand this test of temptation.

Therefore, great is the merit of Joseph, termed by tradition "Joseph the

Righteous," who emerged victorious from this conflict. His refusal was not

at all a simple matter; it is he refused to the tune of a shalshellet,

with its melodic line thrice ascending and descending, like a warning siren

accentuating the merit of the Biblical figure who refused, who conquered his

desires; Joseph the dreamer.

(Y.

Leibovitz: Sheva Shanim shel Sihot al Parashat ha'Shavu'a, p.151)

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