Vayishlach 5768 – Gilayon #524
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Parshat Vayishlah
JACOB BECAME VERY FRIGHTENED AND WAS
DISTRESSED; SO HE DIVIDED THE PEOPLE WHO WERE WITH HIM AND THE FLOCKS AND THE
CATTLE AND THE CAMELS INTO TWO CAMPS… I HAVE BECOME
SMALL FROM ALL THE KINDNESSES AND FROM ALL THE TRUTH THAT YOU HAVE RENDERED
YOUR SERVANT, FOR WITH MY STAFF I CROSSED THIS
CAMPS.
(Bereishit 32: 8, 11)
Two camps
So he divided the people, to teach you proper conduct that one
should not put all of his wealth in one place. Who do we learn this from? From
Jacob, for it says, So he divided the people, etc. and it also says [Obadiah
took one hundred prophets] and hid them fifty men in a cave (I Kings 18), and he said, "If
Esau comes to one camp and strikes it down" – these are our brothers
in the south; the remaining camp will escape" – these are our
brothers in the Diaspora.
(Bereishit Rabbah 76:3)
…and he was distressed: see Jacob, when
he was given over fully to the whims of Esau, who was coming to him at the head
of an armed force – he divided his people in order to save something as a
remnant.
So our dispersal in exile was also a means
for our survival and success. Esau's sword could never catch all of us together
at one time in one place. When our blood spilled in the west, our brothers in
the east lived in tranquility, and vice-versa. "The Holy One blessed be He
was charitable to
when He dispersed them among the nations" (Pesahim 87b); this is exactly what Jacob did in his time
of trouble.
(Rabbi
S.R.Hirsch on Bereishit 32:8)
The
Price of Suspicion
Ariel
Rathaus
Scripture itself
hints that the mysterious "man" who wrestled all through the night
with Jacob was an angel of God (as Jacob states: For I have seen God face to
face and my life was saved – Bereishit 33:30). The opinions of the Sages were divided in
regard to the angel's identity and the reason for his attack upon Jacob. According
to one view, it was the angel Michael, one of the Holy One Blessed be He's
established messengers to human beings and the purpose of the struggle was
actually to encourage Jacob and to demonstrate to him that he had no reason to
fear Esau: "Michael told him: ‘If you could do this to me, when I am one
of the first among {God's] princes, how can you fear Esau?" (Yalkut
Shimoni, Vayishlah
32:132). According to another
view, the angel was the "Prince of Esau" (Bereishit
Rabbah 77:3), and their struggle is to be understood as an integral part of the
unending conflict between the two brothers and between the human essences and
spirits that they represent (this approach became very popular thanks to its having
been adopted by Rashi).
Whether the angel
came to encourage Jacob or whether he is to be identified with "the Prince
of Esau," there is no doubt that the struggle with him has an important
narrative function in setting up the great surprise to come when the brothers
finally meet. The wrestling match that lasts until dawn and the serious injury
to Jacob's thigh would seem to foreshadow the coming conflict and to imply that
the peace alluded to by the angel's blessing to Jacob cannot arrive without war
and bloodshed. In this way the story again ratchets up our expectation of an
outbreak of violence, which has already grown in the course of earlier
passages. From the very beginning of parashat Vayishlah
we find Jacob struck with fear and anxiety, planning for conflict. He sends
messengers to placate Esau, he prays that God will
save him from his enemies, lest they strike down mother and children alike.
He prepares entire herds of sheep, cattle, camels, and donkeys as a gift
sent to my master, to Esau. He gives his servants strict orders regarding exactly
what they should say to his cruel and terrible brother and how the herds were
to be led.
Behold the wonder!
All of this pent-up pressure pops like a harmless soap bubble. Esau manages to
surprise us – and apparently, to surprise Jacob as well. After all of the
expectations of blood-shed described in many verses, and following the struggle
with the angel, which also contributes to our increasing anxiety, there comes a
simple and succinct verse which turns everything on its head: And Esau ran
to him and embraced him and fell upon his neck and kissed him (Bereishit 33:4). Instead of spilling his blood, Esau kisses
Jacob.
Esau's character
as described in parashat Toldot also sets us up to be
surprised. Of course, it is possible to maintain that Esau is portrayed in Toldot as an impulsive man who acts upon his momentary
inclinations and is thus capable of demonstrating sudden and ephemeral
affection towards his brother. However, we must not in any event discount the
fact that he had planned to kill Jacob, even if he would have to wait until
after Isaac's death to wreak his vengeance. As a result, his treatment of Jacob
in their encounter was not foreseeable nor to be taken for granted. Esau's
earthiness and coarseness do not lead us to expect him to advance at all
spiritually or psychologically; there is a foundation for the derasha that derives his name from the word asuy ["formed"]: Esau was born covered
with a mantle of hair, like a grown man. He was completely "formed"
and assumed his final form from his first day. That form would accompany him
throughout his life (se Rashi and RaShBaM on Bereishit 25:25). Could such a man, one "formed" from his early infancy, be
able to change?
The Torah answers
this question in the affirmative. The important lesson to be learned from the
story of Jacob and Esau's encounter is that one must not rely too heavily on prejudices
– people are liable to change and surprise us. R. Shimon bar Yohai's famous comment on the verse, and Esau ran to
him, etc. seems to be intended to make precisely that point: "It is a
set law that Esau hates Jacob. However, at that hour his compassion overcame
him and he kissed him whole-heartedly" (Sifri, Beha'alotkha 69).
The dictum just
quoted above is often brought as evidence of the eternal and inevitable enmity
of Esau and of the nations in general towards Jacob/the Jewish People, so much
so that that it becomes drained of its meaning and is rendered indistinguishable
from the stance of R. Shimon bar Yohai's opponent in
argument, who claimed Esau's kiss to have been insincere (Sifri
ad loc). The truth of the
matter is that R. Shimon bar Yohai seems to be
teaching us something entirely different, and the dictum simply gives
expression to the surprise felt by any normal reader upon reading the story of
Jacob's encounter with Esau: while prejudice, based upon verses from parashat Toldot, says that it is Esau's custom to hate Jacob, the
reality described in the story's continuation gives the lie to that prejudice,
since when the brothers actually did meet, Esau honestly and truly kissed
Jacob, since he was overwhelmed by compassion for him. Suddenly, Esau behaves
in an unexpected fashion, and this behavior is sufficient to "overcome the
prejudice, for he did kiss him whole-heartedly," as the NeTzIV Mi'Volozhin explains in
his illuminating comments (Emek HaNeTzIV
LeSifri,
5737, pg. 218).
Even someone who
is "formed" like Esau, a man wicked from the womb, can change for the
better – and not just for a short moment. Of course, the unexpected behavior of
someone who changes suddenly from an enemy to a friend would not necessarily
earn our trust in someone usually thought to pose an existential threat. It is
not easy to become convinced that "there is someone to talk to." It
is simpler and surer to continue distrust of the enemy and to be careful of
him.
Scripture attests
that Jacob did in fact continue to be suspicious of his hot-headed brother who
had one promised to kill him; we see him asking Esau and his men to move ahead
of his own caravan, apparently in order to leave him and his household an
escape route in case of surprise-attack. None of us will condemn him for this
natural distrust, but there are some among the authors of the midrashim who count as a sin Jacob's lack of faith in his
wicked brother, a sin for which Jacob and his household were punished. Even
before Esau fell upon his neck, Jacob should have believed in the possibility
of his brother's repentance, but he did not have any faith in it at all: he hid
his daughter Dinah in a closet because he feared that Esau would see her and
ask to marry her. That is why Dinah eventually suffered the events that befell
her, as Rashi writes on Bereishit 32:23: "Jacob was punished for his, that
he kept her from his brother, for she could have returned him to goodness, and
so she fell into Shekhem's hands." (The source of this midrash is in Bereishit Rabbah 76:9) Esau might have repented with Dinah's help,
but Jacob, still wary, prevented that possibility.
The story of Shekhem,
with its humiliations, violence, and bloodshed, came as punishment for Jacob's having doubted his brother's ability to change. At
the end of the day Jacob, who had so feared his enemy Esau, finds himself in an
ever worse situation, surrounded by more numerous enemies, as we hear in his
rebuke of his sons Simon and Levi: "You have troubled me, to discredit
me among the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and among the Perizzites, and I am few in number, and they will gather
against me, and I and my household will be destroyed."
the events that eventually befell Dinah" (Bereishit 34:30). From here we see that trusting enemies and
the wicked is not always a matter of naïveté, as cynics and those
of little faith would have it. Sometimes wariness carries with it a very high
and even unbearable price.
Dr. Ariel Rathaus is a literary researcher and translator.
What was the Messengers' Answer to Jacob?
and
he is also coming toward you: They [spoke] as if convinced that Esau is
coming only to honor him and protect him on the way. Perhaps this was Esau's
intent, and perhaps they understood from Esau's reply that he had no evil in
his heart or hate towards his brother, and perhaps they also told Jacob all of
the words of peace and fraternity that he had spoken to them. However, Jacob
did not believe all of that because when he heard that Esau was coming to him
with 400 men he became afraid, and Scripture did not want to write at length
about the words spoken by Esau and the messengers since they made no difference
because Jacob did not trust in them. And it appears (as is the opinion of my
student Rabbi Avraham Hai Minchower)
that Esau did not tell the messengers that he wanted to go to Jacob with four
hundred men, rather they understood it from that which they saw and from that
which they heard from his men. Esau was unaware that they thought this and so
he was able to believe that Jacob did not know that he was coming, and that the
herds were being sent to Seir and the people walking
behind the herds did not know him, see verse 17. The word ve'gam
[and also] means "we have performed our mission and it has alsoborn fruits, for here he is coming to you."
(ShaDaL Bereishit
32:7)
Simon and Levi are brothers
This is problematic, for it would seem
that they had acted with the consent of – and in consultation with – her [Dina's]
father; for they stood before him, and he understood that they were speaking
deceitfully – why, then, was he angry? Furthermore, it cannot be that he
wished to marry off his daughter to the Canaanite who defiled her, and if all
the brothers were partners to the deceitful answer – though Simon and Levi
alone perpetrated the act – why did the father cursed the wrath of Simon and
Levi alone?
The answer is thus: The deceit of all
the brothers lay in their telling them to circumcise all males. They assumed
that all the men of the town would not do so, and even should they obey their
leaders and circumcise themselves, the brothers would arrive on the third day,
when all were in pain, and take back their daughter from the house of Shekhem. This was the strategy of the brothers, approved by
their father. But Shimon and Levi sought vengeance, and decimated all the
men of the town…
Because the people of Shekhem were evil, and they considered blood to be no more
important than water, the sons of Jacob wanted to take revenge by the sword of
vengeance, and they killed the king and all the inhabitants of his city, for
they were his servants, obeying his commands, and the covenant of the
circumcision was considered by them to be meaningless, no more than an act of
obsequiousness to their masters. Here Jacob says that they endangered him, as
is written, You have brought trouble upon me, making me odious; later
on, he curses their wrath because they wronged the people of the town who had
said to them in his presence, And we shall dwell with you and be one people and
they might have turned to God; and they reneged on their word, and perhaps they
[the people of Shekhem] would have turned back to Godand they killed them with no justification, for they [the people of Shekhem] did them no harm whatever, and this is the meaning
of their weapons are tools of lawlessness (Bereishit
34:13).
(RaMBaN 34:13)
…And he was further angered lest
people say that it was upon his advice that the act was done, and this – a
prophet performing acts of lawlessness and plunder – would constitute a
profanation of God's name. This is the meaning of Let not my person be
included in their council – excusing himself by explaining that he was not
aware of their intent as they answered deceitfully, and he was not counted in
their assembly when they came upon the town and murdered them.
(RaMBaN Bereishit 49:6)
…Even the Holy One, Blessed Be He
seems to present a problem, for one might come and claim: The Torah itself
justifies their behavior, for what is written following the incident? The
fear of the Lord was upon the surrounding town, and they did not pursue the
sons of Jacob. Does not that miracle constitute proof that God approved of
their action?
The Torah
teaches and reiterates that miracles and omens are not proofs of truth. Pharaoh's
magicians also succeeded in their magic… daily and throughout all of human
history we are witness to the victorious arm of falsehood – but none of this
proves anything… for – as a contemporary sage said – among the many and
varied terms employed in description of God's attributes, we do not find the
word "success."
(Prof.
Nehama Leibowitz, Studies in the Book of
Bereishit, 267-268)
Readers
Respond
As
an "obsessive" reader of Shabbat Shalom, I would like to give
a big yeyashar koah
[‘more power to you"] to all involved in this sacred work. Occasionally I commenton things that I believe require correction, but it is always out of complete
identification and great appreciation.
A midrash from tractate Ta'anit
of the Bavli is reproduced in the Chayey
Sara issue of Shabbat Shalom. In the context of s discussion of the question, "Is it permissible to criticize the actions
of the righteous?" the midrash
is quoted as follows: "Three made improper requests, two were answered
properly, and one was answered improperly… Eliezer, servant of Abraham, as is
written (Bereishit
24) May it be that the
maiden to whom I say: Pray lower your pitcher etc. Even
if she were to be crippled, even blind!? Nonetheless, he was
answered properly, and Rebecca appeared."
I set the troubling words in boldface; I feel that the editor must
attend to them in some way. Shabbat Shalom is supposed to be an
educational instrument. Thank God, in today's society our attitude towards
physically handicapped people and people with special needs has changed in the
direction of emphasizing their being human beings equal in value to other human
beings created in the divine image. I would expect that especially when the
possibility of criticizing our predecessors is being discussed that the editor
would add a note of dissent from the attitude of the Sages as it is expressed
here in the Bavli. In our view, a lame or blind woman
can be a worthy wife.
Dr. Debbie Weisman,
Pinchas Leiser, editor of Shabbat Shalom, comments:
I thank our member Dr. Debbie Weisman for her response and comments.
As for the matter itself: it is clear that if the Sages were prepared to
relate critically to certain actions of positive characters and thus emphasize
their humanity. Thus they relay to us a message that our making certain
criticisms of their own words or deeds does not lessen our appreciation
of the Sages themselves. Rather it makes them very human.
However, I feel that at the end of the day, the term kehogen
["properly"], as it appears in the passage in question, should beunderstood as expressing the notion of a correct match between what is asked
for and what happens in reality. That is to say – in contrast to Yiftah, Eliezer receives a "proper" response,
i.e., one that matches his expectations, even though he "gambled." While
we find the particular examples offered grating, they are of entirely minor
importance in the context under discussion.